All girls would. Especially yours. Yes, you, reading this. We all want you to bang us so hard that we can't even remember our own names. Or do we?
This blog is in response to my friend Liam's entry (see 'This Charming Man' at http://paintthesilence1.blogspot.com/) because what he was writing about is sadly a real issue in our society and as a straight girl, I am a victim of vulgar comments such as this a lot and I'm not even that attractive so I dread to think how much really pretty girls have to suffer from it! You'll have to read Liam's blog to see what I'm really talking about as I'm not here to regurgitate everything he said: this is just my personal opinion on the issues that he raised.
First off, he asked if girls really like being spoken about like that. My opinion? No, but then again, I don't believe that the majority of girls ever find out what's being said about them behind their backs. Most boys, when with a member of the opposite sex, turn into nervous and quivering wrecks. They act gentlemanly, caring, almost loving. They use words such as "beautiful" and "gorgeous", before going back to their friends and bigging themselves up, going into vulgar details about the sex they've just had and how many times they made her orgasm (guys, take note: you didn't make her orgasm. She was faking), before being slapped on the back by their little crew and downing a pint like the big bad men they are. Which is the reality? Surely it can't be both? Many people would assert that boys use girls for sex and that the romantic act is just that: an act. But I am of the opinion that a lot of boys my age aren't really that confident around the opposite sex, and that the big talk afterwards is just bravado designed to mask their own insecurities and to impress their friends, in a primitive kind of way.
One of my flatmates pulled a girl once and the day after she was the talk of the house. And not in a nice way. Now, I'm not saying that boys are totally to blame because sleeping with somebody you've spoken about two words to in your entire life isn't really the nicest thing to do but why can't things just stay in the bedroom? Why must we go out, sleep with people and then laugh about the same people not even 24 hours afterwards? Why have sex with somebody you think is a bit of a joke?
I'm going off the point.
Liam's blog was about people making comments about people that they find attractive. Disrespectful comments.
I'm inclined to say that attitudes such as this reflect sexism and a lack of respect towards women but it's more than that. If I'm dressed down, talking to a guy about politics or something, chances are he'd respect me. However, if I walk past the same guy in a cafe and I'm wearing a short skirt, chances are the same guy will say something vulgar about me to his friends and it doesn't make sense. It isn't a lack of respect towards women, because when these boys are talking to women, or just chilling with their female friends, there's respect there.
The disrespect only comes in when they begin to view the women in a sexual way and to me this doesn't make sense. If you view someone as a piece of meat who you'd "rip in half" with your (ahem) "huge" cock then how can you then go and whisper to her that she's beautiful and kiss her on the forehead?
It's obviously a shocking fail in socialisation and the boys that do this need to grow up and learn how to respect a woman. If you're out for a one night stand then chances are that she is too so neither of you have the upper hand or the right to mock the other. You are both just as "up for it". If you see an attractive girl and say these things about her to your friends, then just remember that by doing so, you're setting yourself up for her to make the exact same judgements about you, if not worse.
[Note: this is obviously not about ALL boys. I do realise that an entire gender can not be summed up in a single blog entry. This is about the TYPE of boy that makes comments like this about girls. Nobody else.]
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